Now what

If there is one thing I know to be true it’s that anyone can say things but you find out if It’s words or action in a tough time. There is a saying that “actions speak louder than words.”

So what do you do when the rubber meets the road? Right now im in a very interesting place. My husband hasn’t been feeling well and I really don’t like it. It’s Easy for me to be there for him when he’s feeling well, but what about now.

I think about the deepness of the vows we made to each other, and the life we are building together. It rejuvenates me and reassures me that everything will work out.

I realize that life is this beautiful, wonderful, messy thing. But we must hold on, sometimes things will get challenging but you have to decide if you will stay or go.

Even when you have a great relationship or friendship. Things will change but it will continue to grow. I don’t want to just be one of those fair weather people. So what do I do now? I just continue to stand.


I love that word, victory. Everyday we see words like suffer, hardship, dedication but victory has a nice ring to it. One of the things I have been doing is going to the gym more. Hubby and I meet with the trainer a few days a week. It hurts, burns and I like it. I feel the weight release and my clothes are fitting better.

I realize that when you have victory in a situation it energizes you and helps you to keep going. I’m proud of my weight release thus far but I still have more work to do. More to conquer.

A few months ago I mentioned about a book I’m a coauthor on, it’s a devotional. I was excited for the opportunity and on last weekend I got my copies. I jumped up and ran to tell my husband and we celebrated together.

I was thinking “Yesss”, Victory!! It makes me want to push harder when you see those small victories. One day my name will be on the cover of a bestseller and I want it to bless others. My mom’s picture was on a magazine and I said to her “Mom, you are a celebrity.” So even though I’m not a celebrity, I feel like second generation to be published. I want to put the link for you guys to purchase it.

But, I want you to push even when adversity happens because on the other side is victory. I’m so excited for where I’m going. Greatness is in you, continue to exercise it!

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Its almost here!

Well, soon I will have some information to share but I won’t yet. So hold on to your hats lol. So here we are it’s April and next month is out wedding anniversary. You know how people say time flies when you are having fun..they were telling the truth! We are what love looks like.

It’s deep to be in love and finally have someone that adds to you and doesn’t take away from you. I get to be myself and that’s silly,opinionated, honest and more. If I’m having a bad day his hugs and kisses make it all better. But here’s a secret I wanna share with you..I love my husband but I’m glad I learned how to love me first.

When you truly love yourself, you don’t take less and you respect yourself enough to wait for what you deserve. I hope that you find that great love in you before your spouse comes.


It’s funny the things that you learn with time. Here I am in my mid thirties starting to feel like my life is actually starting. Has anyone ever felt that way? I look at the different things I was doing just five years ago and it’s different. Five years ago It was 2017 and I had a job where I was getting state benefits. I lived in Georgia and even though I didn’t like GA, I stayed there until 2020.

Now, I work from home. I’m married, and I have you in my life to write to. My life before was good, now it’s great. I’m learning that I only live once so I might as well do what I am called to do and I found out that it’s writing. It’s my quiet place and I feel great once all the thoughts are out and I’m left feeling accomplished.

I remember thinking my mom must know everything and couldn’t believe when she told me that she didn’t know something. I’m learning that its okay not to know everything. Life is a quest and soon you will continue to learn as you go. But learning is so important. So what’s something you are learning?

In this thing called life, it’s important to never stop learning. Let’s continue to grow as well. Be blessed

A year and a day in

Well, here we are. It’s been a year and a day that I’ve been writing to you and I’ve met so many great people on this page. I want you to know that every like and comment, really warms my heart. You guys are Rockstars!

So, as we end out this month, yes I’m still doing the mindset challenge and I want you to check this one out. It is safe for me to release old,limiting beliefs that stood in the way of my success. So what am I saying?

In doing this challenge, I hope you either start or learn to pay attention to your mindset. Only in a correct mindset will you truly manifest correctly. I will tell you a secret..shhh don’t tell anyone else ok…But sometimes the things you knew need to become what you knew. Don’t allow anything or anyone to limit you.

You can be your own No limit soldier, lol. Releasing old things that no longer serve you is a great mindset to have. Remember you have the power to change how your life is going. When you change your mind, you change the world because you start with yourself, that is how your world will change.

Let’s continue to do better! I’m so proud of you!

Just start

Well tomorrow makes one year that I’ve been here, writing this blog. It’s going to be my blogaversary! I know it’s not a word but hey I hope you will let me getaway with it…lol…So with that in mind. I want to mention a mindset challenge that has has a hold on me.

It says that “I don’t have to master anything perfectly to start reaching my goals and growing my successes. So, last year I was thinking about what could I do to share my story and encourage others? I knew something had to change but wasn’t sure what exactly. I was two months away from getting married and I said to my fiance, i think I wanna blog. Do you think I should do it?

He told me yess you should do it. I took his advice and ran with it. Did I research blogging? Did I join all the groups on blogging ? Nope I didn’t. This blog sat here and I kept writing and wondered if anyone cared, then I got my first follower. I know I kinda went around the corner and down the street, but it’s important that you just start.

It’s been a year and do I know everything about blogging? No but I’m still learning and I found out how much I love it. Being here has blessed me to know what I want to do with my life.

If you build it, he will come. Don’t let procrastination rule you, jump In and learn as you go. Don’t fight the process.

Mindset Challenge

This month has started on a whirlwind. One day while I was cleaning I found these flashcards about mindset. A lady had sent them to me about a year ago. So I figured maybe I need to do a mindset challenge.

Each day I’ve had to check myself on things that maybe I didn’t know were there or just didn’t want to admit. So let’s do the one for today.

Failure doesn’t exist, because every action and event moves me forward. So what does that mean? I’m glad you asked. When I was younger and a relationship didn’t work out I would say he just made room for the right man to come into my life. Eventually I was blessed with my husband.

I realize that things had to happen when I lived in Ohio because if it didn’t I would still be there and I wouldn’t be walking in my purpose. I believe adversity comes because we won’t move on our own if we aren’t pushed to. So on today, know that when you look at adversity as a stepping stone and not a stumbling block you win and you grow.

Let’s take action

Hello Everyone! Happy Sunday! Sorry it’s been awhile, been ghostwriting books, taking care of home and its been an adventure. First, I want to say hi to the new followers! I’m so glad you are here. I hope you read something here that encourages you, helps you make it to the next level.

Well, today at church was wonderful. My pastor talked about, it’s time to take action. So what does that mean? Let me tell you a little secret, well not really a secret but a story. I love going to the gym. At the beginning of the year, the gym will be packed. But by the second week it will be back to normal. People either decide to do something else or they don’t want to sacrifice how they eat to live their dreams.

It’s my plan to release weight,but I can’t if I don’t try or want to change. Dreams without goals are just dreams. But I have to be willing to change things, and to follow through.

So what are your dreams?

I don’t want you to just exist, live your life. But you must take action. Don’t just talk about it but be about it. You would be surprised how many people would back you up when you decide to step out.

I still dream about being a great writer and I’m almost there. One day you will see my name in print. I’ve just gotta believe in myself..will you believe in yourself?

My ode to Black History

Since this is the month of Black History, and I am indeed a Black Woman. I had something on my heart I wanted to share. While I was in school I learned there were different struggles that happened in different parts of the world. Since I am here, a U.S. Citizen things are different here.

I have read of various women like Madame C.J. Walker, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth, Marian Anderson so many powerful women who have beat the odds to win. Years ago I had a talk with a friend who asked me, who do I think has it harder? Black women or Black Men? Keep in mind this is me at 18 yrs old. I said, Men are looked at as the head of the house, they must work but get a certain amount of a pat here and there. Black Men do have to jump through hoops but there is the fact he’s still a man.

Women are looked at as the homemakers, some men think women should be barefoot and pregnant. So put Black on there and there are multiple levels that she must go through in order to make it. It interesting that I thought that at 18. After all these years, I still feel that being a Black Woman is hard but with everything we are dealt we can rise above and make it better for the next person.

I have my role to help make this world a better place. It’s not important what race or gender you are. We all need to ban together to help others. I was watching The Color Purple the other day, and Mrs Celies story is so wow. She went through alot but she rose above that.

For me, there are people who look at me and see nothing. They believe I will be nothing. They count me our before even knowing me. So, I must decide who I will be and do it. Nothing against other heritages but I’m glad I’m a Black Woman. There is a flower that grows in the dirtiest waters but it’s the most beautiful flower,it is far away from the sun but sooner or later it reaches the sun, it’s called a lotus flower.

So many Black Women like my Mom, Grandma, have gone before me. Millions of women, I have no choice but to be great. In order to succeed you have to push. Not everyone is going to believe in you, but is that really your problem? You believe in yourself and the people that are for you will come. I believe in you!


In life, we have so many things that we go through on a day by day basis. But life isn’t all bad, their are some good things too. But are we afraid to prosper?

Us as a people can feel like we can’t do things, and we defeat ourselves before we start. Right now in my life, I’m growing in my writing. It’s been something that I love to do, and I’ve gotten some great feedback. The goals are there and I will put them into practice. But are you defeating yourself?

My mom used to tell me that I can do anything. Guess what? I believed her. If no one tells you, I will . I believe in you, you can do it. Don’t let fear hold you back. You must push.. Fear is real but courage is bigger.

So, don’t say that only special people can be successful. Everyone can be successful, but only some push past fear and don’t give up on the life they want. So, what will you choose?